It means: "things go home", and "going home" means landing. This means doing things calmly, landing, and finishing.
"Mind saves trouble" and "economy" means "right? Help others ",this sentence means to care about foreign things, care about others, care about society, care about the world, and have aspirations. "
Modest and humble in front of successful people and big shots, with inner self-restraint and tolerance; Do things with results, rewards, and no delay;
There is a charitable feeling of helping others in my heart, which is a beautiful figure with noble morality and good looks in my ideal.
The vassals of the Principality of Ceng Wenzheng like physiognomy. He tasted the method of asking people to examine people over the years and made an incisive conclusion: "evil looks at the eyes and nose, and true and false look at the lips." Fame depends on spirit, wealth depends on spirit. Ideas depend on claws, storms depend on tendons.
If you want to see order, everything is in the language. "Youyun" dignity and massiness are Guiyang, while modesty and tolerance are your phases. Things have something to return to, and things have something to save. "
Choose a prophet. The author extracts practical and reasonable experience from the long-standing technology of measuring people, and classifies and summarizes it. Zeng Guofan, a Confucian general in the late Qing Dynasty, combined his numerous reading practice and physiognomy theory for more than two thousand years.
Summarized two classic general principles of judging people, which can be used as the summary of this article: "Dignified and heavy, humble and tolerant is your appearance;" It is rich to have something to return to, and it is rich to have something to read. "
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Zeng Guofan put forward two important aspects and two rich aspects of human beings from the perspective of being a man and doing things. This road shows the four blessings of life.
The first blessing: dignified and heavy
Dignified and heavy, dignified and heavy, are all heavy effects. It can be said that the core of these four words is thick. Only "thick" can truly be dignified and heavy.
The Book of Changes says: A gentleman carries things with virtue. Tao Te Ching says that a gentleman is thick but not thin.
The Analects of Confucius also said: a gentleman is not strong if he is not heavy, and his learning is not solid. If a person is not solemn, he will be frivolous, have no dignity, be sloppy, have no self-control, and what he has learned will not be solid.
Zeng Guofan has been in charge of the army for more than ten years, but he has no personal contact with his royal relatives and then Regent Wang Yixin. It is said that it is because he has seen photos of the prince. Looking at his photos, Zeng Guofan said slowly:
"If you believe in cleverness, you are Xiao Zhi's ear. If you look up, you will be too clever and resourceful. "
He added: "It is also the misfortune of the country to be in the position of Duke Zhou but have no hope for Duke Zhou."
A photo can actually show the misfortune of this country. Zeng Guofan has no magic. He just thinks that Prince Yi is "frivolous" and not heavy.
Why do you say dignified and heavy is your appearance? Actually, everything happens for a reason. A dignified and heavy person shows that he knows how to fear. A person with a sense of awe will not be reckless, thoughtful, rash, cautious, and will not communicate casually.
People who have a sense of awe are often feared by others. The fewer people who offend, the farther away from the disaster. Dignity and massiness are not fake, but works of self-cultivation and self-cultivation. Therefore, Zeng Guofan repeatedly reprimanded his son to quit being frivolous and practice his manners more.
According to later records, Zeng Guofan "walked heavily and spoke slowly". He walks steadily and speaks slowly, but every word has a touching power.
Therefore, Lv Kun, a great thinker in the Ming Dynasty, said: "Deep and thick is the first-class qualification, magnanimous and heroic is the second-class qualification, and cleverness before sophistry is the third-class qualification.
Clever mind and eloquence are only third-class qualifications, and the leading actor and heroine are only second-class qualifications. People with heavy personality are truly first-class people.
In The Condor Heroes, Yang Guo chose a black iron sword weighing 8 1 kg from many lonely and defeated swords. Holding a black iron sword in his hand, he murmured the words "The epee has no front, and the trick is ineffective", as if to enlighten him. It can be said that Jin Yong showed this profound truth to the world through Yang Guo.
The second blessing: humility and tolerance
Modesty and tolerance, from the perspective of doing things, such people are bound to be more successful.
Modesty is a divinatory name in the Book of Changes, which is called "Dishan Modesty". Its divination symbol is a high mountain, hidden underground, or,
On the top of the high mountain in Wan Ren, there is a plain of clear Wan Li. On the contrary, it feels bland and has no sense of steepness.
Taking a step back is called modesty, not being arrogant or impetuous is called modesty, taking a step is called modesty, and saying thank you and I'm sorry is called modesty. Except modest hexagrams, other hexagrams are good and bad, good and bad. This is the truth of modesty. When you reach the top, you should be honest and don't think you are tall. This is the truth of modesty.
So the mountains are modest and the highest, such as Kunlun Mountain and the top of the Himalayas. How high! But what is the use of height? It would be nice to get off the bus.
The top of the mountain is flat, which means that the highest place should be the most common, and the most common and respectable thing is modesty.
Tolerance means tolerance, generosity, and tolerance for people, things and words. Tolerance is an essential lubricant in interpersonal communication. Zeng Guofan taught us that we can't enjoy all the blessings and use all the power.
Everything should be kept low-key on weekdays, because the experience and lessons of past dynasties tell us that the main body of the people is always relatively weak, which can be explained by the rich and the poor. The poor are somewhat hostile to the rich. At this time, the small mistakes of rich children will be magnified countless times, leading to the confusion between right and wrong and the reversal of black and white.
What best reflects Zeng Guofan's tolerance is his relationship with Left. In fact, Zuo's later achievements cannot be separated from Zeng Guofan's support.
However, Zuo has a bad temper, which is that he likes to call names. At that time, he called the company commander Fan Xie a "bastard". When things got to Beijing, the emperor ordered him to be killed. Fortunately, Zeng Guofan, Hu Linyi and others mediated, and Zuo survived.
Zuo was promoted by Zeng Guofan. Left's abuse of Zeng Guofan can be said to be inappropriate, unscrupulous and indiscriminate. Zuo sometimes scolded Zeng Guofan for "taking bribes" at home, and as a result, Normal Geng became impatient.
Zuo also repeatedly encouraged ministers to impeach Zeng Guofan. 1864, Ceng Guoquan led the Xiang army to capture Jiangning. Due to negligence, King Xiaotian, Hong Ren and others escaped. Zuo seized this and attacked Zeng Guofan and his brothers.
Since then, the two men broke off diplomatic relations, but left's campaigns in the southeast and northwest needed food and ordnance. Zeng Guofan, as the governor of Liangjiang and Zhili, gave his full support.
Zeng Guofan and Zuo are both famous soldiers, and the court generally calls them "Zeng Zuo". Zeng Guofan was older than Zuo, and he was promoted to Zuo. However, Zuo was very conceited and never took Zeng Guofan seriously.
On one occasion, Zuo asked his attendants discontentedly, "Why did everyone call him Zeng Zuo instead of Zuo Zeng?"
An attendant boldly said, "Ceng Gong always has a Zuo Gong in his eyes, but there is no Ceng Gong in Zuo Gong's eyes."
The words of the attendants made Zuo think deeply for a long time.
No matter how Zuo scolded him, Zeng Guofan always smiled at him. He once commented on Zuo: "On the law of war, I am not as good as Zuo, winning glory for my country and taking the high season as the crown." The country is fortunate to have left. "
Zeng Guofan's generosity also let Zuo put down the gap in his heart. When Zeng Guofan died, people speculated that Zuo might not make sacrifices. And left brought his elegiac couplet:
"Being loyal to serving the country and knowing people's wisdom is better than being assisted by Yuan. Being loyal to serving the country, attacking mistakes like stones and not losing your life."
The third blessing: return things to their original owners.
The so-called things have a home, that is, things are calm and the dust settles. The implication is also down to earth. In the current words, it is to implement. Everything has a beginning and an end, both diligent and persistent.
When doing business, many people want to get rich overnight, but they don't know how to make small profits but quick turnover. Living at home, many people do not know how to save, like extravagance and waste, and finally lead to life without landing;
Many people make a splash by trying to do their own business. When one thing is not finished, they put it down to do something else, but they don't know that their career started from an early age, and they became famous inch by inch.
Zeng Guofan wrote a sentence in his family letter: although a person is in the yamen of the Ministry of Rites, he is diligent and methodical, and he is deeply willing to do routine things for his country. Unswervingly and methodically, everything here has its place.
The fourth blessing: the heart is rich.
Saving means knowing how to care about "external things", including caring for others, caring for society and caring for the world. Having a charitable heart, knowing how to help others is actually helping yourself.
Such people are rich and expensive spiritually even if they are not rich materially. Paying doesn't mean that this person is a rich mine?
Saving things with your heart is the spirit of "saving the world quickly" and "worrying about the world first, and enjoying the world later". Men save money and have a big pattern.
How big the pattern is, how big the world is; How professional you are, how professional you are; You can get as much in return as you can help others. This is the true meaning of saving and the connotation of being rich.
We must give up these two evils.
In the eighth year of Xianfeng, Zeng Guofan wrote to Quanguo, saying, "The fierce and defeated people in ancient times are about two ends: pride and talkativeness.
Dani is corrupt. To say that he is proud of clamoring for lawsuits means that he talks a lot. Many of them lost their lives through famous public officials in history.
Zeng Guofan pointed out here two fierce virtues and weaknesses of ordinary people: arrogance and talkativeness.
To some extent, young Zeng Guofan made arrogant and wordy mistakes, but he can seriously reflect and correct them afterwards.
Finally, he achieved his own personality, so Zeng Guofan's "virtue leads to defeat" is a valuable motto he summed up from his life experience.
The first virtue: pride, the way to defeat.
Once people have a proud heart, they will inevitably relax their vigilance in all aspects, and disasters and failures will inevitably follow.
Pride is the road to self-destruction, so the ancients said that pride goes before a fall. In the west, Shakespeare once said: "Proud people always destroy themselves in pride.
An arrogant person can't tolerate others and can't handle interpersonal relationships well. Wang Yangming said: "Be proud of your son and be unfilial; If you are proud of your brother, you must not be a brother. " .
Too much arrogance and narcissism in The Romance of the Three Kingdoms made Guan Yu perish. Guan Yu was a little proud when Fancheng flooded the Seventh Army.
In Dongwu, Guan Yu heard that Sun Quan worshipped Lu Xun as a general and wanted to replace Monroe. He said, "It's no worry if obedient Lu Xun replaces him!"
However, after Lu Xun, who was full of strategy, replaced Lu Meng, he wrote to give gifts and tried his best to flatter him. Guan Yu is even more careless.
Guan Yunchang doesn't listen to what others say at all. He always feels that his conclusion is completely correct, and what others say is useless. He was finally killed.
The second evil virtue: many words are harmful.
Zeng Guofan's "few words" stems from a small matter. He had just entered imperial academy and was in high spirits. Once, when celebrating his father's birthday, he came forward to brag to his birthday friend Zheng Xiaoshan, and he was a little carried away. As a result, Zheng Xiaoshan was disgusted and left.
Zeng Guofan regretted it very much afterwards. He reflected on his three major mistakes in his diary. First, they are usually self-righteous; Second, if you don't open the door, you can say where you want to go; Third, obviously speaking offends people, and arguing with others, even to the point of inhumanity.
To sum up these three points, Zeng Guofan said that as a standard Confucian intellectual, he couldn't even understand the truth in the Book of Rites that "bad words don't come out of his mouth, angry words don't go against his body", and he couldn't even pass the language barrier. What can he do?
Zeng Guofan worked hard all his life to "say nothing". Not only does he often criticize himself, "The loss of everyday words is really a ghost story!" I often ask myself, "I said a lot of jokes, but I didn't mean them from my heart." This kind of speech habit and personality defect, "When can I uproot this root?"
He not only has this "wordless" requirement for himself, but also regards it as a very important part of the wisdom of family training, especially for his two sons and several younger brothers.
If you want to use words more than suppress others, even if you win, others will not be convinced. Be modest when dealing with people. There is often no right or wrong in quarreling, and the result is often emotional.
If a person complains too much, the result will be suppressed. If he complains about the sky for no reason, the sky will not be allowed. If he treats others for no reason, people will not accept it. Depression often hurts others.
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