16 psychological skills

1. Praise is a panacea. People are very willing to help those who praise themselves, even if the praise has a certain purpose. Of course, a more accurate and heartfelt compliment will have a greater effect, and this method is effective for anyone. The so-called "wearing thousands of clothes, not wearing flattery" is scientifically justified ~ 2, in a bad mood? Stop it now! If you are in a bad mood, you must not work or communicate with people immediately. Giving yourself some time alone, even if it's only two minutes, can help you calm down quickly and restore your reason and normal mood. 3. Waiting is the best way to listen. If you ask someone a question and they answer half of it, you wait and they will finish it. Just wait and keep eye contact. Eventually, they will talk. 4. Are you nervous? Chew! Just chew gum when you are nervous before speaking in public or bungee jumping. It is said that humans will automatically stop chewing (eating) when they are in danger, so it is safe to eat. This is what the brain tells you. When others get angry with you for no reason, do nothing. Next time someone yells at you, keep calm. This will make them more angry. In the end, their anger will burn out and they will be ashamed of their actions. 6. Talking is the most grounded cure. There must be one or two friends who can listen to you. Don't be afraid to talk about your wounds and problems. If you are willing to open your heart, the other person will also exchange secrets with you. Talking is also a good treatment. Find someone to heal each other (note: telling the truth does not mean complaining about negative energy). Talk and help each other. 7. Feeling stressed? Change your posture When you feel stressed, remember to adjust your body posture to get more stretching-this is the most effective way to eliminate stress. Why? Because size is very important. When you re-pose, some of your mental stress will be released and transferred with your stretching. 8. Want to know who has a good relationship with whom? A group of people are together, everyone is talking and laughing, and everyone has eye contact with the person who feels closest to them. So, I want to know who has a better relationship with whom. Then take a good look at everyone and see who they look at when they laugh. 9. Do people really welcome you? Watch other people's feet. When you join others' conversation, you find that others just turn their upper body around and keep their feet in the original direction, which means that you are not welcome to join. 10, discussion and cooperation skills If you want to negotiate, cooperate or discuss with people, try not to be in formal occasions such as meeting rooms and offices. You can choose a place like a coffee shop, which can reduce the defense of the other party. In addition, in terms of time, you can choose between 2-4 pm, when people are more relaxed ~ 1 1, want to know a person's sincerity? Want to know the true state of a person's heart, want to know what a person lacks, don't bother to analyze and guess, just look at what this person is showing off. If you want to know what a person is inferior to others, just look at what he hides. 12, 6 details of life Young brain 1, laugh every day 1 time: it has the effect of relieving stress and fighting mental aging; 2, adequate sleep for 7 hours: adequate sleep helps the brain to strengthen memory; 3. Get up and move after sitting for 2 hours; 4, often massage the scalp and scratch; 5. Move your neck while walking; 6, adhere to fitness for 4 months: exercise helps to strengthen memory. 13, angry, there is a big difference between men and women. Men are angry because their rights are threatened, for example, they want to do something but are forbidden; Women, on the other hand, feel rejected, neglected and jealous because other people's behavior does not meet their own wishes. Psychologists believe that "women often want someone or something to change, but they can't do anything about it, so they get angry." 14. Flip a coin to help you decide your idea. When faced with two choices, tossing a coin always works, not because it always gives the right answer, but because at the second you throw it in the air, you suddenly know what you want it to be,,, 15, feeling anxious? Clean the house! When you are anxious, tidy up the house. Tidying up the room and cleaning up the stains will make your heart more and more relaxed, just like cleaning up your emotional garbage at the same time, you will be happier and feel more than before. 16. Be yourself. The first half of your life may belong to others and live in other people's opinions. Then give the rest of your life back to yourself and follow your inner voice. Although brain biofeedback therapy has a history of several decades in China, it has been developed for hundreds of years abroad and gradually became popular, becoming the main physical therapy for anxiety, depression and insomnia. The principle of brain biofeedback is to adjust the patient's physiological state and the frequency of brain waves and solve it through biofeedback. Through the collection and analysis of human brain waves, the mental and psychological state of human body is determined, and these signals are displayed in an easy-to-understand visual and auditory form, so that patients can understand their own physiological changes, and through repeated training, they can help patients understand and adjust their own physiological changes. 16 psychological skills 2 1, it is easier to make wrong decisions in dim lighting environment. Just like the dim sight of the cinema, the dim desk lamp in the room at night, and the dazzling colorful lights in ktv, people's judgment will be reduced in these dark and non-dark environments. Therefore, in such an environment, we should make decisions more carefully and extend the decision-making time. 2. Less rhetorical questions: "Otherwise?" "How should I know?" "Do you understand?" There may be no other meaning when saying these words, but in fact they are very painful and have great negative effects. If you can use declarative sentences in your life, you don't need rhetorical questions, because 8% rhetorical questions are a big killer to end the topic. If you want to interrupt others endlessly, you can do some distracting actions. For example, pick up a glass of water and then leave your seat to get water. These actions can turn the other person's attention to you, and he will stop talking. 4. When others ask you to evaluate, don't spit out suggestions. For example, "Is the color of my clothes good?" If it doesn't look good, we usually respond directly to "it doesn't look good". In fact, we can say, "You can try the blue one, it will look better". You see, using different words to express the same meaning gives people different feelings. To judge whether a person is looking at you, you can suddenly look at the sky or look down at the floor. If the other person does the same, it means that TA is secretly looking at you, because people will be unconsciously driven by what they care about. 6. Everyone will make a mistake-the broken window effect. When you buy something new, it will be strictly protected, but once it is dirty or broken, it will be thrown aside, and the protection is not as good as before. If there is one piece of garbage left unattended in the street, there will soon be countless pieces of garbage. If you want to break this spell, you must make it happen before it happens. Once it is dirty, clean it up immediately, and clean up the garbage on the street immediately. 7. Don't be fooled by the price mantissa. Shopping malls often see goods with a price of 2499,389, 198, which is very attractive. In fact, the pricing of these goods has another mystery. 9 and 8 are at the end of the numerical sequence, which easily gives people the illusion that 2499 is about equal to 24, with a difference of 1, which is the charm of the price mantissa. 8. Teaching is learning. When you want to learn or remember something for a long time, the best way is to teach it to others, so that you can not only remember all the details that you don't usually pay attention to, but also get rid of useless things from your mind. 9. Liars will deliberately correct their actions and expose flaws. For example, when he is surprised, he will always maintain a surprised expression instead of returning to a normal expression for one second; When describing an event, a liar will deliberately make it smooth and correct, but he often needs to recall the real thing in order to express it accurately. 10, use different clothes on different occasions, and quickly enhance personal charm. People's first impression is often in their eyes. Whether you are beautiful or not, wearing a bright dress at the party will attract people's attention. Having an important meeting and wearing a calm suit will increase your confidence; This is the halo effect. As long as you leave a good or bad impression on others at the first time, others will see you in the same way. 1 1. Mutual respect is the first condition for friendly coexistence. Talk to others on the phone and try not to talk to others at the same time. Similarly, someone else is on the phone. If it's not particularly important, wait until someone else finishes calling. 12. After buying a mobile phone, most people will go on to buy accessories such as mobile phone case, protective film and charger. They just won the "matching effect". When we get a new item, we will constantly allocate items suitable for it to achieve psychological balance. 13, when is the person most awake: before dying, before the agreed deadline, before surgery, before being hit, before doomsday, before retirement. People are most confused: when committing a crime, when suffering from Alzheimer's disease, when being proud, when money comes quickly, when falling into desire, when trying to take advantage. 14, why do we always feel that others are happier? First, because we will actively underestimate the negative information of others, and second, because others wear happy masks and deliberately hide them in communication. Therefore, you don't have to feel too inferior, thinking that others are good, but you always live so sadly. In fact, others may not be as beautiful as you see. 15, the magical Franklin effect tells us that people who have helped you will be more willing to help you. If you want to improve the relationship between people, the easiest way is to let him help you once and narrow the psychological distance between them. 16. If you have something to do tomorrow, you'd better start now. Most people should have had this experience: after a holiday, returning to work always feels extremely difficult, facing work anxiety and having no clue.