Text/Linxi Weiyan
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A good friend got married last year, and the groom is not the crazy guy who went from high school to college. The boy who fell in love with her was a man she met on a blind date.
To be honest, I don’t understand her choice. Why is she willing to hold another person’s hand and spend the rest of her life despite loving that man deeply? Wouldn’t it be a regret?
The boy is our same friend. How much does he love her?
He could save all his living expenses and buy her a dress; every time we quarreled, no matter who was right or wrong, he would always be the first to bow his head; for her, he even gave up going to a prestigious university in Beijing. , stayed locally to accompany her; once she insisted on breaking up, he even knelt down in front of us and begged for peace.
I learned from him how low a boy can go for love. He must love someone very much to love him so much that he forgets himself!
Even if this is the case, they still cannot make it to the end. My friend explained to me: "People who are too extreme are not suitable for marriage. Love requires infatuation, but marriage requires warmth."
To be honest, I couldn't understand this sentence at one time. Since we are in love, we should be together. Talking about other things is just to excuse ourselves.
It wasn’t until I met Lin Huiyin and Xu Zhimo that I realized that love is one thing and marriage is another.
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Many people don’t like Lin Huiyin very much. I think it’s mainly out of women’s jealousy. She has a beautiful face and extraordinary talents. She has Liang Sicheng who will never leave her in her life, and she also has many close friends. Even her parents and elders prefer her.
How can all this make people not jealous?
The four beauties of the Republic of China each have their own labels: "Golden Voice" Zhou Xuan, "Campus Queen" Lu Xiaoman, "Queen of Silent Films" Ruan Lingyu, and "Unworldly Fireworks" Lin Huiyin.
This is undoubtedly the greatest compliment for a beautiful woman. She is like a green lotus, shy and shy in the cool breeze.
In terms of talent, her construction career not only received high praise from her husband, but she also participated in the design of landmark buildings in New China many times.
She is also good at prose and poetry. She studied in Europe and America in her early years and has extensive knowledge. Even with Wen Yiduo, Jin Yuelin, Hu Shi, Shen Congwen and other talented people, she is not inferior in drinking tea and discussing the world.
It can be said that she lived the life that all women dream of.
Since ancient times, there have been many women with both talent and beauty, such as Lu Xiaoman, Zhang Ailing, and Li Qingzhao.
However, there is only one Lin Huiyin who can use his talent and beauty to the extreme and live like a "goddess" throughout his life!
She is warmth, love, dream, and a true "April in the world".
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Lin Huiyin was born in Hangzhou by the West Lake in June 1904. His father Lin Changmin graduated from Waseda University in Japan and was good at poetry and calligraphy. He once served as the Chief Justice of the Beiyang Government.
Lin Huiyin is the eldest daughter in the family. The word Huiyin is taken from the "Book of Songs Daya": "If the eldest sister is good at the sound of the heir, then the male will be the best."
Her original name is " Huiyin", because there was a slightly famous writer in Shanghai at that time, also named Lin Huiyin.
People often confused the two, so she changed it to "Hui Yin".
Lin Huiyin’s biological mother is He Xueyuan. She is a traditional woman with bound feet and is not favored.
On the other hand, she is smart and charming, and is deeply loved by her father. When Lin Huiyin was a child, he felt his mother's melancholy while bathing in his father's brilliance.
Lin Huiyin herself once said that her childhood was not happy, and her mother's negative emotions often made her feel very inferior.
In 1916, Lin Huiyin settled in Beijing with his father and entered Peihua Girls' High School.
In 1920, Lin Changmin was sent to Europe for an inspection visit, and he specially brought his daughter with him.
In September of the same year, Lin Huiyin was admitted to St. Mary's College in London.
Because her father often had to travel to various European countries for meetings, she could only stay in London alone. The loneliness in a foreign land often made her feel desolate.
She later recalled in a letter to a friend: "I was alone in a large study room watching the rain, eating alone, biting my fingers and crying. I always hoped that life would be a little better. Romantic things happen, or someone comes in to talk to me, or sits with me by the fireside upstairs and tells me stories, the most important thing is that someone comes to love me."
The moon is over. The old man gained insight into her thoughts in Guanghan Palace.
Soon, a handsome gentleman was brought in front of her.
He is - Xu Zhimo!
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Xu Zhimo originally came to London to study philosophy with Russell. Only when he arrived in London did he learn that Russell had been expelled from Cambridge University.
He had no choice but to choose the School of Economics and Political Science at the University of London to continue his studies.
In this way, 24-year-old Xu Zhimo met 16-year-old Lin Huiyin!
Xu Zhimo later recalled that when he first saw her, his body couldn't help but trembled. Maybe it was due to some strange moonlight, and his internal organs were completely smudged by the moonlight.
At that time, Xu Zhimo had just started writing poetry. He said that talking to Lin Huiyin always inspired unlimited inspiration.
Since ancient times, talented people love beautiful women. At that time, Lin Huiyin was just beginning to be beautiful. He wore a long braid, a plain student uniform, bright eyes and white teeth, and a bright smile. She is humorous and very talkative, just like a begonia blooming in Xu Zhimo's heart.
Even love rival Zhang Youyi once praised her: "Xu Zhimo's girlfriend is a lady with complex thoughts, beautiful appearance, and complete freedom of her feet."
Girl's Her thoughts were like spring breeze that could not be hidden, and she gradually developed a good impression of this talented man who fell from the sky.
The leisurely walks in Hyde Park and the Cambridge River Cam where people can talk freely bear witness to the first ambiguous time between the two.
Xu Zhimo’s pursuit was fiery and sincere, like a bonfire, shining through the fog of London and shining into her heart.
But before she had time to make a decision, she learned that Xu Zhimo had a family in China.
And she also has a three-year-old son, so she fell into deep fear and uneasiness.
Lin Huiyin couldn't bear to reject Xu Zhimo in person, so she could only ask her father Lin Changmin to write a letter to him on her behalf:
The intensity of affection in one step was shocking, and Hui was also frightened. I don't know what to answer, and I didn't mean to be sarcastic at all. I think I just misunderstood.
This tactful letter of rejection did not extinguish Xu Zhimo’s love. He was even more determined to divorce his wife Zhang Youyi. He thought that as long as he was free, there would be no more obstacles between him and Lin Huiyin. Even if his wife is pregnant, he doesn't care.
Zhang Youyi said timidly: "I heard that some people died because of abortion."
Xu Zhimo ridiculed her calmly: "There are also people who died on the train, you Don’t you take the train when you see someone else?”
“When a man doesn’t love this woman, it’s wrong for her to cry, it’s wrong to be silent, it’s wrong to live and breathe, and it’s wrong to die.”
From this point of view, women's cruelty is mostly like a ruthless mouth, while a man's cruelty is like a ruthless mouth and a diamond heart, and will not give up until there is blood.
He thought that his unfeeling was an ironclad proof of his love for Lin Huiyin, but he didn't know that any woman with some sense would dare to entrust her life to him when she saw this situation?
Moreover, Lin Huiyin always believed that her mother's misfortune in her life was caused by her father's change of heart. Her kindness would not allow her to bring this pain to another innocent woman.
As a result, Lin Huiyin and his father ended everything in the UK ahead of schedule and returned to China.
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A year later, when Xu Zhimo returned to China, Lin Huiyin had accepted the family's arrangement and got engaged to Liang Qichao's eldest son, Liang Sicheng.
If we say that the unfinished love between Xu Zhimo and Lin Huiyin was really passed over by time, perhaps a little hastily.
On April 23, 1924, the great Indian poet Rabindranath Tagore visited China at the invitation of Cai Yuanpei. He was accompanied by Lin Huiyin and Xu Zhimo served as translator.
Judging from the previous photos, Lin Huiyin at that time had short hair and wore a black suit with a string of Buddhist beads on his chest, looking intellectually elegant; Xu Zhimo wore gold-rimmed glasses and wore Chinese-style tops and plain robes are extraordinary.
The two of them, one on the left and one on the right, were beside Tagore. They seemed to be a perfect match for each other.
Time gave the two people another chance to get close to each other, and everything seemed to go back to the good times when they first met a year ago.
Tagore noticed the tacit understanding and affection between the two, and he even intentionally held a red thread for them. Some clues can be seen from a short poem written by Tagore before he left China:
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The blue of the sky fell in love with the green of the earth, and the breeze between them sighed "Hey"!
The sky refers to Zhimo, and the earth refers to Huiyin, and this sigh means that this relationship has once again ended without a problem.
In fact, Lin Huiyin and Liang Sicheng only made a verbal engagement at that time and did not give a betrothal gift. It is not impossible for her to go back on her word.
But reason once again defeated emotion.
Lin Huiyin once said in his later years: "What Xu Zhimo loved at first was not the real me, but the Lin Huiyin he imagined with the romantic emotions of a poet. In fact, I am not that kind of person."
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The unique precocity of women allows one to see through the truth behind poetry at a glance. Poets always hope to beautify everything, especially love.
The thoughts of a girl are the poetry of early spring, and the love between you and me is also poetry, but life is never poetry.
What she wants is a stable and ordinary life in this world, and this is exactly what Xu Zhimo cannot give her.
If you clearly know that a relationship will not have the ideal result, it is better to shed tears and cut off the love from the beginning. A temporary pain is better than a lifetime of pain.
I really admire her rationality and foresight in dealing with emotional problems. Judging from the subsequent events between Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman, her decision is really wise.
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Two months later, Liang Sicheng and Lin Huiyin went to the United States to study together in the Department of Architecture at the University of Pennsylvania.
Liang Sicheng doted on her wholeheartedly. Every time they went on a date, he would wait for twenty or thirty minutes downstairs in the girls' dormitory before she came out.
His younger brother Liang Siyong once wrote a couplet for them: Miss Lin came out with all kinds of makeup, Mr. Liang waited and waited and finally got married. The horizontal line was: sincerely.
In terms of study, Lin Huiyin has a quick mind and often has fantastic ideas. Her design drawings are always changed again and again, and in the end they are beyond recognition.
At this time Liang Sicheng will step in and use his accurate and skilled drawing skills to turn the messy sketch into a perfect work.
In life, Liang Sicheng was like a child who had just learned to walk and did not know how to take care of himself. Lin Huiyin's carefulness and consideration came in handy.
They are like two puzzle pieces that fit together perfectly.
At this time, Lin Huiyin's father died in a refugee crisis, and the Lin family was once in dire straits, and they were unable to even afford her tuition in the United States. It was Liang Qichao who took the initiative to take care of her father's funeral and helped her complete her studies.
The accident made her see everything around her clearly, and also allowed her to grow up quickly.
The next year, she and Liang Sicheng got married in a church in Ottawa, Canada.
On the wedding day, Lin Huiyin did not wear a white wedding dress, but wore a dress with traditional Chinese charm that she designed herself, which was beautiful and moving. Liang Sicheng is in a neat suit and looks handsome.
On the wedding night, Liang Sicheng asked: "There is a question that I will only ask once in this life, and I will never ask it again in the future. Why me?"
Lin Huiyin said to him affectionately: "The answer is very long. It may take me a lifetime to answer you. Are you ready to listen?"
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After getting married, Lin Huiyin She doesn't want to be a housewife, hanging around her husband and children, she still wants to be herself.
If marriage is really a tomb, then she must be an extraordinary little dragon girl who lives her own style with her unique skills.
The two were employed by the Department of Architecture of Northeastern University together. The white clouds and black water picture she designed is still the school emblem of Northeastern University.
From a delicate and frail woman, she accompanied her husband and endured disease, war, and hunger. From 1930 to 1945, the couple visited 15 provinces and more than 190 counties in China, inspecting and mapping 2,738 ancient buildings.
At this moment, she is no longer the goddess in Liang Sicheng's life, but a spiritual goddess, who has a common career and accompanies them through the ups and downs.
Lin Huiyin has a true love for architecture. In order to protect the ancient archway in Beijing, she even pointed at the nose of Beijing Deputy Mayor Wu Han and scolded: "If you demolish it now, you will definitely regret it in the future. Even if If we create another one, it will just be a fake."
She participated in the design of the national emblem, rescued the cloisonné craft that was on the verge of becoming a masterpiece, and designed the relief decoration on the base of the Monument to the People's Heroes. But she accomplished these three things while having one of her kidneys removed and suffering from lung disease and coughing up blood.
In 1950, when the national emblem was hung on Tiananmen Square.
Daughter Liang Zaibing said with tears: "That red color also has a drop of mother's blood."
Liang Sicheng is a famous architect in my country, but Lin Huiyin, as his wife, rarely uses Liang Sicheng as his wife. The identity of the wife is revealed.
She is not inferior to Liang Sicheng in her career. She is an independent person and does not want to be a subordinate of anyone, even if the other person is Liang Sicheng.
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Lin Huiyin is the goddess in the hearts of many people, not only for her appearance, but for her character and character when the mountains and rivers are broken.
In 1944, the Japanese army captured Guizhou and approached Chongqing. Liang Congjie asked his mother, what should he do if the Japanese invaded Chongqing?
"Isn't the Yangtze River right at our doorstep?" Lin Huiyin, who was seriously ill, said decisively.
Liang Congjie became anxious and asked, "I go to school alone in Chongqing, so you won't care about me?"
"If it really gets to that point, I'm afraid I won't care about you. . ”
Faced with the national calamity, she once again considered death and would rather throw herself into the river than become a prisoner.
It’s not that women are inferior to men, but that countless men are ashamed of them.
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Lin Huiyin has always had a high profile. Upon closer inspection, she does not even have a few same-sex friends, and her relationship with her mother-in-law is not good.
Liang Sicheng once said: "I do not deny that being with Lin Huiyin is sometimes very tiring, because her mind is too active. When you are with her, you must be as responsive as her, otherwise you will not be able to keep up with her. "
This sentence was said after Lin Huiyin's death.
After he remarried Lin Zhu, he sighed: "It turns out that marriage can be so easy and beautiful."
This statement once caused dissatisfaction among many Lin fans, who criticized him. Passionate and unsympathetic.
This is really unfair to him. Liang Sicheng's love for Lin Huiyin does not need to be proved with words, nor can it be erased with two sighs. If anyone were to be Lin Huiyin's husband, they might not be able to do a better job than Liang Sicheng.
During the Anti-Japanese War, they fled all the way, and Lin Huiyin unfortunately contracted lung disease. Always pampered, he learned how to cook, stew soup and porridge. He even did the injections, infusions, decoctions, and medicines himself.
Lung disease is contagious, and doctors require isolation and treatment. Liang Sicheng disagreed. He couldn't bear to cause his seriously ill wife to be mentally stimulated again. Even if he eventually contracted tuberculosis, he never complained.
If this is not love, then what is it?
Lin Hui loved beauty, so he specially made a bronze mirror for her. From engraving, injection molding to sand casting, he personally handles every step. Behind the mirror, he carved this passage: "The emblem is for self-reflection. On the New Year's Day of the 17th year of the Republic of China, it was engraved and cast by itself, which is a metaphor for its crystal clearness."
27-year-old In their married life, he has always regarded her as a goddess, always following her halo and guarding her dignity. Of course he is tired.
But the sense of accomplishment of being able to legitimately worship the goddess in everyone's hearts should also be a kind of satisfaction for men's desire to conquer!
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So what about Lin Huiyin? Who does she love?
During their investigation, they once passed through Jinan, where Xu Zhimo's plane crashed.
She wrote with tears: "The same bright moon, the same lights across the mountain, the sky is full of stars, only the people are missing."
After Xu Zhimo's death, she even more The wreckage of the crashed plane hung in her and Liang Sicheng's bedroom.
Everything she did was not because she could not forget her old love for Xu Zhimo. But because Xu Zhimo's death was directly related to her - Xu died in a plane crash in order to attend her first lecture after returning to China.
Life and death made everything an irreparable shortcoming, and she was also responsible for the marriage between Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman. What she did later was not love, but guilt and nostalgia.
It is impossible for a person to love only one person in his life, and remembering the past does not mean being unfaithful to the present.
The only person she has ever admitted to and loved in love is Liang Sicheng.
During the eight years of the Anti-Japanese War, for him, she changed from a wealthy lady wrapped in silk to a poor wife dressed in coarse linen.
She wrote in the book: "I am a woman, so of course I immediately became a model of pure chaff. I rented two rooms to cook, teach, wash, and make beds. Every day passed by like a revolving door. "
"Under the dim light of the rapeseed oil lamp, I sewed my children's cloth shoes, bought cheap coarse food to cook at home, and lived the simple life of our fathers' youth. "
Even if the conditions were harsh and even if she had a meager diet, she still enjoyed herself in hardship and never complained at all.
If this is not love, then what is it?
In the midst of his displacement, Liang Sicheng lost his measuring tape. This was a rare item at the time.
For this reason, Lin Huiyin spent a high price of 23 French coins on the black market and bought a new one for him.
You must know that she was teaching at Yunnan University and her monthly income was only 40 French currency.
With her proud character, how could she do such a sensational act if she didn’t love her?
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Jin Yuelin’s talent and humor once deeply attracted Lin Huiyin. When she just realized that the emotional balance was beginning to swing, she I chose to be honest with my husband.
She said to him distressedly: "I am very distressed. I fell in love with two people at the same time and I don't know what to do."
Liang Sicheng was also very painful after hearing this and thought about it. After a long time, he still said to her: "You are free. If you choose Lao Jin, I wish you happiness forever."
Lin Huiyin was moved by his words and did not leave him, but said He said the famous words:
"You have given me an unbearable burden in my life, and I will repay it with my whole life!"
Jin Yuelin said after learning about Lin Huiyin's decision : "It seems that Sicheng really loves you, I should quit."
It was obviously a disgraceful spiritual cheating, but in her hands, the relationship between the couple became stronger. I also gained a dear friend.
From then on, the three of them lived next to each other and made friends through literature. Jin Yuelin never married her.
It is undeniable that Lin Huiyin’s life was involved in countless romantic relationships. The Liang family held monthly meetings in the wife’s living room, and all the literati who came were male guests. But she can find a clever balance between friendship and love, hobbies and life.
She once said in the novel "Ninety-nine Degrees": "I am a woman of ninety-nine degrees. I am always one degree away from the boiling point. I lose one degree of sensibility and increase one degree of rationality."
A person can have many kinds of love, but he can only be loyal to one love. He can have many companions, but he can only choose one to stick to.
This is the brilliance of Lin Huiyin!
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Many times, the hottest love is like fireworks that are easy to cool down, but the real and long-lasting love is the tenderness of the long flowing water.
In her later years, Lin Huiyin lingered on her sick bed. Due to lung disease, she kept coughing every day, and she no longer had the same high spirits as before.
Outside the house, a hunchbacked and lame man was lighting a fire for her.
This is Liang Sicheng. Because he suffers from polio spondylitis, he needs to wear a steel vest.
Next to the fire, he shoveled hard and put the coal into the fire. He shoveled very hard, but he didn't let anyone help him, because this stove was Lin Huiyin's lifeblood.
Once the temperature changes, she will cough non-stop. Only he knows best what temperature is most suitable.
On February 24, 1955, when Lin Huiyin was dying, Liang Sicheng held her hand, tears kept flowing, and kept saying: "Suffer it, Huiyin, suffer it, you are really "Suffer it!"
At the last moment of his life, Lin Huiyin only said two words: "Sicheng."
No matter how beautiful love is, there will always be a day of separation. , a generation of talented woman Lin Huiyin passed away like this.
Liang Sicheng tearfully designed a tombstone for his wife, with only seven words engraved on it: "Master Architect Lin Huiyin."
Jin Yuelin wrote a touching elegiac couplet: "A poetic Qianxun Waterfall, the April sky in the world forever."
Many years later, Liang Sicheng remarried Lin Zhu, and he finally let go of her and started a new life.
One day, Jin Yuelin invited his and Lin Huiyin's best friend to the Beijing Hotel together. He did not give any reason. No one knew what kind of medicine was sold in Lao Jin Gourd, and they were halfway through the meal. , he suddenly choked up and said: "Today is Huiyin's birthday."
Even if Liang Sicheng gave up, he still did not give up. Whether in heaven or on earth, she was still his goddess for life. As long as He will always be in love with her and love her while he is still alive.
It is enough for Lin Hui to survive because of someone who can treat her like this!
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Of course Lin Huiyin loved Xu Zhimo. It is too easy for a romantic and passionate talent to enter the heart of a girl.
But she soon realized that behind the romance was a phantom floating in the clouds, unable to take root at all, so she wisely chose to say goodbye.
Perhaps she also loved Jin Yuelin, but Lao Jin was too rational and chose to give up when their relationship just encountered some obstacles. This is not a person worth entrusting to. After all, there is no relationship. There is smooth sailing.
But I think what she loves most is always Liang Sicheng. This man has a huge heart and extraordinary talents. He can not only support her pride, but also fulfill her life. The love between them is not only There are not only flowers in front of the moon, but also family, country and world.
This is also the result she has expected all her life.
Being loved by many people is nothing to boast about. It is wisdom to be able to find someone to accompany you for life among all living beings.
She is not much smarter than us, but she knows exactly what she wants and what she has.
Marriage is not a shackles for women, and women do not need to be men’s foils. The best love is evenly matched.