Li Yinhe and Wang Xiaobo (her love affair with Wang Xiaobo)

Wang Xiaobo, aged 45, died in April of 1997,1/kloc-0. Yesterday was the anniversary of his death.

Wang Xiaobo's prose, which is often mentioned now, is called Silent Majority.

The "silent majority" is to teach people sincerity, charm, the right to speak, pay taxes, wear the emperor's new clothes and speak. People who understand reason are silent because the environment does not allow them, and people who don't understand talk a lot.

When Wang Xiaobo was a child, he heard the rumor that the grain yield per mu was 300,000 Jin, but he never believed it, because he was so hungry that he ate the pencil tip, chewed it off the rubber tip of the pencil in class, ate the tin around it, and then ate the wooden pen, which was a little fragrant. Even a part of the table was eaten. This is also quite ironic. When I was a child, I was hungry and ate a pen. Revenge with a pen when you grow up.

Wang Xiaobo's book, once read, has been read; If you haven't read it, you haven't; Understand it; If you don't understand, you don't understand It's not happy to love someone you don't know.

Wang Xiaobo is like the person who refuses to be silent.

Mr. Lu Xun once said a metaphor of an iron house, saying that most people sleep in the iron house, and occasionally some people wake up, but their crying angered others because he disturbed most people's good dreams.

Wang Xiaobo is like the person who refuses to be silent.

His words are sometimes unpleasant, but why do you insist on exposing things that everyone knows but doesn't want to say? Isn't it good to enjoy the fun of this world? Why are you obsessed with problems that reasoning cannot solve?

Wang Xiaobo's tone is milder than Lu Xun's, and he speaks his mind straight through and rarely criticizes it wantonly.

Wang Xiaobo has a metaphor in his article, comparing a literate person to Tang Priest and worldly material desires to goblins. If the Tang Priest sleeps with a demon and loses his yang, he is not qualified to go to the Western Heaven to worship Buddha. In fact, Hu Shi, Dickens and Flaubert, a large number of literati, never imprisoned their desires. As long as they don't rape her body and spirit, men and men can fall in love after consultation.

Culture is a vegetable and morality is a carrot. It can be said that carrots are vegetables, but vegetables can't be said to be carrots. This will narrow the culture, and maybe one day there will be no food. After reading the whole book "Silent Majority", it is very avant-garde and is also applicable today. Wang Xiaobo's thought can no longer be described as avant-garde, and it can be called the Bible to promote spiritual civilization in the history of China literature.

Wang Xiaobo's family was born.

From 65438 to 0952, Wang Xiaobo was born in an intellectual family in Beijing, and his father was the most famous logician at that time.

Because of some storms that year, Wang Xiaobo was not born yet, and his family suddenly changed. In order to make this storm pass quickly, Wang Xiaobo was named Xiaobo by his family, which means "big waves wash sand".

16 years old went to Yunnan to jump the queue. He thought it was a romantic adventure, but he didn't expect to suffer a lot there. Eating humble meals, doing tiring work, being beaten and scolded by military representatives from time to time.

A few years later, Wang Xiaobo returned to Beijing with a whole body of pain. This experience became the material for his writing "Golden Age" and he began to write.

Later, their correspondence was published in a comprehensive book called "Love You Like Life".

"Hello, Li Yinhe." This is the beginning of every letter, and "Hello Wow" has become Wang Xiaobo's iconic love letter.

A word "wow", full of sincerity, full of enthusiasm and full of stupidity. Love makes people stupid, and makes a great writer who wrote the trilogy of the times and all kinds of pornographic essays become a pure teenager.

Wang Xiaobo's wife Li Yinhe.

Many people probably knew Wang Xiaobo before they knew Li Yinhe. Me too.

Later, I learned that Li Yinhe was a sociologist, sexologist, feminist, expert, scholar and professor. He studied under Fei Xiaotong, the founder of sociology in China.

Many people in the literary circle take it for granted that Li Yinhe is only called Wang Xiaobo's widow. Wang Xiaobo's fame is too great, because of his light.

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Wang Xiaobo won't agree with such "I thought".

Because Li Yinhe is a treasure!

When he was alive, many people's attention was focused on him alone. But in fact, Wang Xiaobo's great achievements cannot be separated from his wife Li Yinhe, who silently supported him behind his back. Moreover, compared with Wang Xiaobo, Li Yinhe's various conditions and achievements are more outstanding.

Li Yinhe and Wang Xiaobo are originally from two worlds, so there should be no intersection. But it didn't work. Later, fate brought them together. It is said that they first met at Wang Xiaobo's house. Although Li Yinhe had a great affection for him after reading his book "The Green Hair Monster". But when she really saw him in person, she suddenly had a strong sense of disappointment with him.

It turned out that Wang Xiaobo at that time was not only ugly, but also unkempt. The whole person looks a little sloppy, not like Prince Charming imagined by Li Yinhe. Therefore, after this meeting, Li Yinhe felt quite disappointed and expressed the hope that she would never see him again.

But Wang Xiaobo is different. Since he met Li Yinhe, he has had a strong feeling for her. Later, in order to be with her, he quickly launched a fierce pursuit offensive against her. As a result, after a long time, Li Yinhe really promised to be with him. Moreover, since then, Wang Xiaobo has worked hard not only to develop literature, but also to follow Li Yinhe's progress-because Li Yinhe is a college student, and Wang Xiaobo later went to college to make himself worthy of others. Then Li Yinhe will go abroad to study, and Wang Xiaobo will follow others. But also in the process of studying abroad, successfully obtained a master's degree. After that, they got married regardless of all difficulties and finally lived an enviable married life.

Their love story has become a classic.

"When I think of you, I smile on this ugly face." Wang Xiaobo wrote his love for Li Yinhe in this letter.

Li Yinhe once recalled that in the 20 years of loving each other, they almost never quarreled, and all they felt was sweetness and warmth. "My life is full of a soft and deep sense of intoxication because of his dependence."

Wang Xiaobo and Li Yinhe, the reason why they don't have children.

Wang Xiaobo and Li Yinhe agreed to live a rich spiritual life for a long time before marriage. To this end, they decided not to have children, so as not to be entangled in trivial matters. Later, both of them went to America to study. According to their understanding of life, life is too short to travel by candlelight. Although they don't have much money, they still travel all over the United States in the most economical way.

On April 1997, Wang Xiaobo died of a heart attack at his home in Beijing at the age of 45.

1997, 45-year-old Wang Xiaobo died of a heart attack. Wang Xiaobo's second sister, Wang Zheng, was on the verge of collapse after learning the news.

Half a year ago, Wang Zheng and his younger brother Wang Xiaobo spent more than half a month together. They are close, only to find that he is lazy. It turned out that this was a harbinger of his illness.

In addition, the report also pointed out that Wang Xiaobo suffered from coronary atherosclerosis. Because of the scene before death, the pain mentioned by Wang Xiaobo's sister is unimaginable.

Wang Xiaobo's second sister, Wang Zheng, said that the teeth left on the white wall of the room had been bitten off, and the doctor also found that his teeth were white and gray.

This scene is really terrible.

Like Lu Yao, he died young with unfulfilled ambition, but he also left a masterpiece in the history of literature. Wang Xiaobo quit his teacher at the age of 40 to concentrate on writing. He died at the age of 45. In that literary era, Wang Xiaobo must have come, and he came in a hurry. However, during these five years, his literary works attracted people's attention and injected new vitality into the dull literature at that time, just like a ripple on the stagnant water of a pond.

Li Yinhe, who was in America at that time, didn't know.

However, Li Yinhe's heart has been beating fast, as if something was wrong. On the way back from the airport, people who met her said that Xiaobo was a poet and walked like a poet.

She understood at once.

"Death is an inevitable thing. It makes no difference whether you are afraid or not." Wang Xiaobo once said in an interview. Li Yinhe believes that Wang Xiaobo's outlook on life is that he clearly knows that he is short and wants to lose it, but before losing it, he must work hard to create a little bit of beauty to make everything happen.

Wang Xiaobo really deserves to be "a brilliant warrior, a poet and a random thinker."

Wang Xiaobo once said: "If I die today, maybe I can't speak like Wittgenstein: I have lived a happy life;" You can't say, like Stendhal, I survived, loved and read. I was afraid of falling into all the unspeakable results, so I tried. "

In the 1990s, the literary world in China was a feather duster. Wang Xiaobo rushed in and left in a hurry. I often think that what a terrible situation it would be if there were no Wang Xiaobo in China's literary world in the 1990s. Wang Xiaobo's works injected new charm into the depressed literature in the 1990s. He is like a gravel, and his money is thrown into a stagnant water, causing waves in the water.

Wang Xiaobo died painfully under the condition of creation. He died suddenly at the peak of his writing career. He didn't fall into unspeakable results. Because he left people a lot of valuable spiritual food, he really deserves to be called "a brilliant soldier, a poet and a random thinker."

Li Yinhe is the person who knows Wang Xiaobo best. She has said more than once that she appreciates Wang Xiaobo's talent and knew that he would not be buried forever.

To be exact, Wang Xiaobo became popular only after his death. Most of his works are avant-garde and have their own independent opinions and thoughts, especially his masterpiece "Golden Age", which contains a lot of descriptions of eroticism, causing quite a controversy.

But from now on, it is not that he has a problem, but that we are not open enough and inclusive enough to keep up with his active thoughts.

Fortunately, one person understands him.

This person is Wang Xiaobo's wife, the famous sociologist Li Yinhe.

They are soul mates in the true sense. They will always accompany and support each other, and they will never give up no matter how much the outside world denies or criticizes them.

Wang Xiaobo's widow Li Yinhe.

Li Yinhe is a researcher, professor and doctoral supervisor at the Institute of Sociology, Chinese Academy of Social Sciences. China's first research-oriented female sociologist and liberal feminist. He studied under Fei Xiaotong, the founder of sociology in China. 1952 was born in Beijing. Doctor of Sociology, University of Pittsburgh, USA. 1999 was rated as one of the 50 most influential figures in China by Asia Weekly.

Ms. Li Yinhe doesn't look like someone who can argue with others.

Her appearance, her clothes and her manners are all round, without edges and corners, and there is no so-called appearance.

When talking about her research, she said: some homosexuals wrote to her and praised her as Prometheus who "brought warmth and light to the world"; An old couple in their sixties wrote to her, describing their harmonious sex life repeatedly and in detail; An old goat wrote to her and gave her a hand-painted pornographic cartoon with limerick, praising male genitals; Some veteran cadres wrote to her, calling her Chen Shimei's backstage. ...

Li Yinhe said: we can't let society be so stupid!

Li Yinhe:

When I was in my twenties, I saw existentialism and felt that life was meaningless. Life is accidental and short. Of course, once this matter is figured out, you can't think about it. On second thought, there is no motivation to live at all.

Although life is meaningless in the end, some things are meaningful to life itself. Whether you want a good life or an ugly life, it is meaningful. If you think about things at this level, people will live happier.

Li Yinhe said: I don't like sex without feelings.

Homosexuality, multilateral love, sadism ... I can only say that I want to know more about these things, what they are like through research, and the rights of the parties. I'm curious about the research, but I don't have to try it myself. I can't even try a gay test. I don't like one-night stands, and I don't like sex without feelings. I can fully understand that some people will have this impulse and will like sex without feelings. But I don't like it. I just like radishes, not cabbages. I think people who separate sex from feelings are like cabbage. Of course, if there is only one sexual partner in my life or once there was only one sexual partner, I should still feel sorry.

Li Yinhe's retirement.

Li Yinhe was rumored to live with a woman.

In fact, as early as this matter was widely circulated on the Internet, Li Yinhe himself had already sent a blog post to respond. She said that she is not a "lesbian", and the people who make friends with her and live together are not gay as people think. Because although the other person has the physiological characteristics of women, he always agrees with men in gender identity.

To put it bluntly, Li Yinhe's blog post just wants to tell everyone that the person who lives with him is a "transgender". And this person can only be with women who like men, not with women who like women. This indirectly proves that she is not gay in the traditional sense, but a normal heterosexual. It seems that Li Yinhe's explanation is quite reasonable, but few people can fully accept it. Fortunately, Li Yinhe didn't put too much energy into taking care of other people's feelings, but lived a simple and happy life with that person as always after retirement-it is said that they later adopted a child together, and they usually like to take this child to travel and take photos when they are free.

Li Yinhe is a woman who has lived, loved and written.

It is said that after retirement, she also wrote the book "We are all dust in the universe" from a free and negative perspective.

Li Yinhe wrote in the book, "a happy person, so that your life can be happy;" Be a knowledgeable person, so that your life can be rich; Be a polite person so that your life can be elegant. "

Li Yinhe, who is over 60 years old, lives in Weihai, a small coastal city after retirement.

Her life should be happy, rich and elegant.

Because of her, "I used my whole life to seek happiness (lived, loved and wrote)".