Tools/Materials
From the perspective of a girl, I understand the psychology of girls better. Most girls will not take the initiative to pursue the boy they like, unless they really like him too much or are brave girls with more personality. So, if you like a girl very much and think she is interested in you, then take the initiative and don't get into a tug-of-war with her. If you feel uncomfortable, the person you like may also suffer too.
Methods/Steps
Whenever a girl is chased by someone, her psychology is very complicated. She may be happy, but she is also a little scared. She has an ambivalent attitude towards this boy who breaks into her peaceful life. She does not mean to refuse but welcome him. Don't think that she is testing you, she is actually fighting with herself, and she is afraid of being hurt. Don't be afraid that your initiative will offend her. If you don't take the initiative, she won't take the initiative either, and it will gradually fade away. If your initial confession is rejected by her, that's normal. Don't be discouraged, who knows what this girl is thinking? Maybe if you confess your love twice more, she will be moved by you. A good girl with a kind heart is easily moved. If you suffer a setback, leave immediately, never talk to the girl again, protect yourself tightly, and lick your wounds silently. While you are in pain, you don’t know that the girl may also be feeling regretful and regretful in her heart. Woolen cloth! Maybe she will cry secretly and regret rejecting you. She will also be very sad when she sees your indifferent eyes, but she will not tell you and will definitely not ask you to come back and chase her. Your excessive self-esteem may hurt a girl's sensitive heart. She will think that you don't really like him, otherwise why would you just give up on her? Some people say that it is so difficult for boys to chase girls. But my feeling is that this phenomenon is inseparable from the social role positioning of men and women. From a physiological and social perspective, women are always passive. If, on the other hand, it were the other way around, making men shy and women moving forward courageously, the world would be in chaos! A woman's shyness is always beautiful and touching~ I always heard that a brave man overcame many difficulties and finally won the heart of a beautiful woman. There are very few examples to the contrary. Some boys are afraid that others will say that they are stalkers and will get a bad reputation. But I think that when a boy pursues a girl he likes and continues to be nice to the girl after some setbacks, it means that he really likes her and is sincere. If he doesn't succeed, he doesn't regret it. It's nothing, right? Who made people like it? I hate other people messing around the most, and I also hate boys who have no idea of ??their own and care too much about what others think of them. Such boys deserve to be unable to find a girlfriend. If you are a man, be brave. Girls are inherently emotional and easily immersed in love. Although you have worked hard, once your sincerity touches her, you will get more and longer love. Such examples abound around us. Girls are very gentle and considerate to their boyfriends. In exchange for this sweetness, what is the hard work in the beginning? And most good girls are very devoted and dedicated in love.
Notes
I suggest some boys to be brave and pursue the girl they like. Don’t be so timid. Firstly, it will make people think you are not manly. Secondly, It's your own fault for feeling uncomfortable, but the most important thing is: in the end, you get nothing.
Happiness is always earned by yourself, don't expect others to give it to you!
Moments that girls like.
1: Girls are most likely to be tempted when they are alone with boys. Boys should seize this opportunity to show initiative; if When a third party is present, they usually reject boys outright to hide their true feelings.
Two: When girls stay in a closed space (such as an elevator or a small room) for a long time, their inner feelings Unbalanced, it is easy to produce psychological abnormalities and breed love emotions; boys can use this psychological characteristic to strengthen their courtship offensive.
Three: When hearing boys' words, girls are prone to affection. Boys are more sensitive to visual stimulation, while girls are more sensitive to auditory stimulation. On the phone, a boy's kind, gentle, and musical words can impress girls faster. Boys should fully mobilize the charm of their own language. .
Four: A girl who has just finished dating a boy will be extremely unstable physically and mentally, and will remain in the intoxication and expectation of the date for a long time. Boys can make more use of this at the end of the date. A period of time to further impress the other person.
Five: When a girl is in a clean and comfortable environment, it is easy to become emotional. This environment does not make her feel disgusted and uneasy, and it is easy for her to become emotionally involved. Relax and become emotionally active.
Six: Girls will be easily tempted when they hear continuous compliments. Even if they know that the boy is deliberately flattering and flattering her, she will be confused over time. She thinks that boys are really obsessed with her. They are more likely to accept compliments, flattery, flattery and other ancient and clumsy "courtship signals" emotionally. Perhaps this is an animal instinct reaction.
Seven: Girls are prone to losing control of their emotions in unfamiliar and unfamiliar environments. Boys often change the time, place, and method of dates to give her a constant sense of novelty and new fun.
Eight: Girls The pace of emotion is slower than that of men. Only after a long period of stimulation and induction by boys and eliminating all kinds of interference from the external environment can they be fully emotional.
Nine: Boys who are struggling to pursue girls , suddenly giving up the attack, this is the easiest time to arouse a girl's curiosity and desire, but it will make her tempted.
Ten: Human beings, like animals, have the instinct to choose the strong and prey on the weak. Girls' instinct is to yearn for Strong, therefore, when a woman realizes that the other person is truly strong, she will feel love.
Eleven: A boy’s true love is the most effective weapon to impress a girl. When a girl When a child is convinced that the other person loves her sincerely, it is easy to feel love for the boy.
Twelve: When a girl is tired, it is easier to accept the affection of a boy.
Thirteen: Girls will be emotionally excited when their bodies are touched inadvertently, but deliberate touching will cause disgust.
Fourteen: Sitting in a car for a long time will cause girls to have emotional impulses.
Fifteen: Sometimes a boy loses his temper with a lady and even slaps her several times. At this time, the girl reacts by recognizing the charm of the other party and feels awakened and inspired. (I reserve my opinion on this point, - Will)
Sixteen: Girls’ emotions will spiral out of control after strenuous exercise.
Seventeen: Girls tend to have stronger feelings when playing outside. At this time, girls Children are freed from the constraints of people, things, atmosphere, etc. in the familiar environment, and can easily relax themselves and have the idea of ????seeking fun.
Eighteen: After drinking and hearing sweet words, girls’ cerebral cortex changes In a state of slight anesthesia, rationality is suppressed and emotions become active.
Nineteen: Heart-to-heart conversations between men and women can increase a girl's feelings and then spark love.
20: Boys often spend time with ladies, and only ladies can show their affection, fearing that "love will grow over time". A girl's husband is not always around, which can easily lead to her falling in love with the boys she often comes into contact with.
Twenty-one: When a girl feels dependent on a boy, she becomes emotional easily. If a boy takes her to a place she is unfamiliar with or inconvenient to go to, she will not adapt to that environment and will panic and panic. Invisibly, you develop a sense of trust and dependence on a boy you know well, and become emotionally attached to him.
Five tips to pursue a girl
The first step: Know yourself, know your enemy, know your enemy, and know yourself first :What is my personality like? What are my interests? What is my outlook on life? What about values? Then get to know the target clearly: What is the personality of the target you are pursuing? What are her interests? What is her outlook on life? What about values? Recognize your enemies: Who are her suitors? Which of them stands out? What are his characteristics? Only by taking a comprehensive look, after careful consideration, can you find out your strengths, carry them forward, and find out his weaknesses. Only by being careful not to make mistakes, and knowing yourself and the enemy, can you be victorious in every battle.
Second move: If you don’t enter the tiger’s den, you won’t get the tiger’s cub to be bold, careful, and brave enough to rush forward: after you have clearly recognized the enemy and ourselves, you must be confident and bold, and actively launch an offensive. If you love her, you must bravely step out. step. Rose perfume, phone card: a phone call every day, a rose, and don’t forget to give a small gift on your birthday, such as a lightly scented perfume, accompanied by a small card, which is a hundred times warmer.
Third trick: A loving father, a loving son, a loving brother and a respectful brother. A girl can be said to be a combination of weakness and greatness. Sometimes she is like a little girl who needs to be cared for; sometimes she is like a little mother who is very capable. Take care of others.
Taking advantage of this trait, the boy constantly plays the role of a kind father to care for her, and occasionally plays the role of a little baby, allowing her to display her motherly glory; sometimes he plays the role of a mentor, and sometimes he plays the role of a big brother. The journey of love will surely go smoothly.
The fourth trick: Use both soft and hard skills to show kindness and power. Be obedient to the girl from the beginning to the end. Not necessarily is good. The smartest way is to use both toughness and softness. Sometimes you are gentle, sometimes you are a little domineering; sometimes you pamper her, sometimes you establish a small image of authority. If you use both flexibly, you will be victorious in every battle.
The fifth trick: Make sure the net is sparse and not leaky. Although the person you are pursuing is her, please remember that the decision-making power rests with her and her family members have the influence! So be sure to go to her house often and visit her grandparents, mom and dad, uncles and aunts, down to her brothers and sisters, and even her puppies and pets. Show your ability to be versatile and pass the test. As the saying goes, "You can eat people." You are too soft to take advantage of others." I will definitely say good things to you in front of her, so that she will feel that she will regret losing you for the rest of her life.
1. What kind of first impression should be left on MM (Time: Just started to contact MM)
1. I think the most important thing is to let MM see you. ambition.
The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people do not work long hours and cannot be considered "successful". At this time, you have to make your girlfriend think that you are a motivated person.
You can talk nonsense about other things, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future, you are not satisfied with the status quo, and you already have long-term plans. In short, your future Not a dream.
2. Be confident and responsible
Don’t be like a child. Girls are lazy and hope they can find someone to rely on. You have to show your confidence and responsibility. Heart comes.
Having a wrong choice is much better than having no choice at all.
3. Don’t be too serious, but don’t be too casual either.
Be serious where you should be serious, and laugh when you should be funny.
Girls like men who are a little cynical, so don’t appear to care about anything, as that would be too dull.
4. Look more mature
Men who are calm and unhurried in situations are fatally attractive to girls.
2. How to have further contact with MM (time: the beginning of chasing)
1. The most important thing at this stage is not to rush, don’t make things so clear, let People can tell at a glance that you are chasing them.
Think about it, most people will not fall in love with you at first glance, but they will also not hate you at first glance. They are all ordinary people’s children (unless you look like Chow Yun-fat, Andy Lau or Kevin Coster) (Na), goodwill needs to be realized as understanding continues to increase, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.
Let’s think about it from a girl’s perspective: If you rush over to find someone so directly, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find out that I don't like you after being in contact for a while, wouldn't it be like playing tricks on you? So if you come out with a determined attitude from the beginning, you will basically be put back immediately.
2. Start with a low profile
First of all, you must position the relationship as a "friend". It is originally an "ordinary friend". If you want to become a "good friend", it is okay if you have good taste. Ask the other person to become a "confidante" or something like that, but never say "chasing you".
Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then the girl will have less chance to "reject" you - how can she reject you if you don't pursue her? !
This can reduce the psychological pressure of girls and enable you to have a smooth relationship. Don't imagine that you will agree to marry you after only three days of knowing each other. You need to fully communicate and understand each other. Feelings do not arise out of thin air.
3. Don’t be too impatient in the process of dating
Be relaxed and don’t pester others all day long. You will get tired of anyone who treats you like this. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing a girl is eight words - "hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the culmination of many years of hard work by my classmate).
Of course they won’t think well of you if you keep pestering them all day long. If you give it a proper chill for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your presence.
Also, don’t have the ambition of “I won’t marry you unless you want me”. It’s not good if the price is too low. Sometimes you can use some tricks.
4. Create opportunities appropriately
As mentioned earlier, don’t make things immediately turn into “you are chasing someone else”, and you need to get the opportunity to get close to girls. It all depends on your creativity.
You can collect intelligence and find ways to turn waiting around into an encounter; you can also pretend to be casual and find the most sufficient reasons to invite the other person to do something with you.
In short, this is the most technical place. If it really doesn’t work, you can ask your seniors for advice.
5. Don’t do it: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually
Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things and give them to others. However, they don’t know that this is the most taboo thing for chasing girls.
As the saying goes, "No reward for no reward." If you give people things like this, you are putting pressure on them. People will feel that they owe you something, so they will find a way to pay you back. If they can't pay you back, they will Find a way not to associate with you so that you don't always owe you favors.
If you want to show your sincerity, you might as well ask a girl to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat, or finding an expensive place to play together. Girls will naturally be able to see that you spend money. It's a lot of money, but after all, the money is spent by two people together rather than turned into things to take home.
3. What exactly is a "girlfriend"?
1. "Girlfriend" is a fact, not a promise
When you start dating a girl, you change from "ordinary friends" to "good friends", and then to "good friends". To "a very, very good friend who talks about everything", you "accidentally" held her hand on a sunny afternoon; to "the moon above the willows", you suddenly attacked and kissed her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks that you are her boyfriend.
I know that the wisest person never asked "Will you be my girlfriend" until we went to bed? In the end, the girl got anxious and said, "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend?" ”
Therefore, don’t rush to pierce the window paper. The more hazy the situation is, the better it is for you.
2. What is "confession"?
As mentioned before, confession is actually just a formality. The correct sequence should be: Only when she has actually become your girlfriend can you confess your love to someone, and it will be a matter of course. Many people don't understand this issue and always think that someone agrees to be their girlfriend first and then does whatever they want. I can only say that it is very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid".
3. Are there times when you “have no choice but to express your feelings”?
Yes, for example, a third party appears, or the relationship between you and the girl is not mature but the two of you may be separated for a period of time.
The confession at this time is an immature confession, and the risk is very high. It is similar to the serious situation when playing Go. The lagging side is forced to release the "winner's hand", and if it wins, it wins. If you lose, you can only say "Unlucky people are born".
4. Don’t say the word "love" easily
I often see "bold confessions" appearing on forums. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment, and even a kind of responsibility.
Men who say "love" casually are irresponsible.
4. Civilized love cannot be forced.
1. Not every girl can be pursued.
There will always be many people chasing good girls. No. Maybe everyone's wish comes true, but there will always be losers. For example, even if you study hard and master the most amazing principles of chasing girls, you still can't catch up with anyone in TWINS.
To think about the problem from another angle, a rural nanny who has not graduated from elementary school, no matter how nice she is to you, earns 600 per month and buys you 700 gifts (overdraft), and is willing to "become a horse" for you. "You won't fall in love with her either. If she cries and pesters you every day, you will definitely feel annoyed.
So love needs a material foundation, or at least a balance.
2. Chasing girls is a serious social activity
Don’t annoy others and leave a way out for yourself. Why should a man worry about not having a wife? Some girls are indeed snobbish (a minority). If you are not convinced, you can work hard and use facts to prove that "she was blind at the time." Never mislead others or yourself.
Finally, I would like to add that you must not appear cynical in front of MM. Being cynical sometimes means "you are a failure".
"Will you be my girlfriend?", but she refused: She deserves it! ! Such a big decision in life (choosing a boyfriend!) has to be made by the little girl. The little girl is so scared and shy. 99.999999999% of them are rejected. The remaining one is too affectionate for you, which is just Just don’t deny it. I repeatedly emphasize not to let girls think, don't let girls choose, don't let girls decide, especially for major decisions, such as being her boy, holding her hand, hugging, having sex, you have to take the initiative, because girls are naturally afraid of taking responsibility, being shy, and being too formal. , Decisions that are too clear and important are usually rejected, and the effect is not good. You can only say "Marry me?" It seems like you are letting her choose, but in fact it is a done deal, and it doesn't work if you don't agree. Nowadays, girls don’t like too much pressure, so the relationship of “friends above lovers, lovers below” is what girls like best, so don’t confess directly when you first start chasing a girl, so that the girl who wants to reject you won’t be on guard against you or avoid you. You, some clever tricks to chase MM will be effective.
Remember to create more opportunities to get close. The big boss who delivers flowers once a week and GG who escorts her home every day. MM is always more likely to fall in love with GG because they have more opportunities to contact each other. Therefore, it is often heard that there is a fire in the backyard of an outstanding man who does not often stay at home. The igniter is often An ordinary person who often comes into contact with his wife.
There are many criteria for being a lover: sending roses, holding hands, dating, hugging... Take the initiative to do it, take the initiative to send flowers, hold hands..., you decide she is your girlfriend.
Teach you a trick and take her to fortune telling. Girls are born to believe in God, so religious women are the majority, and they have no independent opinions. Let God convince her to be your girlfriend (this God is at your command). Don't go to draw lots, there are too many variables in that way, go to a fortune teller (somewhat famous), their talk is their bread and butter. A girl who can speak well believes that she will be yours in the past life, this life, and the next life. Don't worry about him talking nonsense. , he knew very well whether to get a lot of money or to smash the stall and get beaten.
The key to whether there is hope or not is up to you. You decide her fate. Listen: The eight-character mantra: thick skin and evil heart, stalking.
Phone call -> date -> holding hands -> kiss -> hug -> target. .
Every step must be completed proactively without allowing the woman time to think, otherwise she will fail.
Don’t be anxious, do all the links at once, that’s a pervert, you have to do each link several times before doing the next link, don’t be afraid, as long as she does it once she won’t mind the second time , MM calls it pushing the envelope. During this period, you should keep sending her gifts, snacks, and phone calls, at least one every day.
Every time you finish a session, call her and chat immediately after sending her home, because after she goes home, she will think about the scene and may regret it or tell her close friends, "Don't do it." Don't give her time to think and discuss.
In the first few sessions, it is best not to let her relatives and friends know, nor let anyone who knows you and her know. This is key, otherwise at least the goal will not be achieved. If her relatives and friends knew about it, they would teach her how to protect herself, and not to mention your details, the investigation of eight generations of your ancestors would be clear. The solution is simple, "My sister has a friend who is very stupid. She tells others about her affairs, and everything turns out to be miserable for her." You must not let her have anyone to discuss or think about, so that she will listen to you.
Many people fail by hugging first and then kissing. Because when hugging, the girl will think, and when she turns around, she will slap her. Kissing is different. At this time, her mind is blank, and it has become a fact that she got her first kiss, and she feels excited (kissing is also called sub-sexual intercourse.).
1. Give for free, treat her sincerely and cherish her
2. Support her when she is in difficulty and encourage her when she fails
3. Be happy together when she is happy, and comfort her when she is sad
4. Respect her own independent time and space
5. Help each other in the short space of getting along with each other. Support
6. Learn to listen, get information about what the other person likes from listening, and then start the topic based on her hobbies
7. Learn to praise, every girl has her own uniqueness You have to be good at discovering and praising them
8. Ask the girl directly about her hobbies, what kind of leisure she usually has, and find topics according to the situation
In fact, love skills are very simple, that is Be attentive and know what girls need, and you will be more than half successful.