The family education I received since I was a child is "Be low-key in life and don't be arrogant in doing things." But unfortunately, I am an Aries who laughs and laughs every day, so I have been carefully taught this no less than N times since I was a child.
I remember at a parent-teacher conference, the teacher praised me for my good grades. Later, after the parent-teacher meeting ended, some parents saw me and conveyed, "The teacher praised you."
I was so happy that I yelled "yeah" in the school corridor, but it was this "yeah" that my mother took as the starting point and started a lively episode. Ideological education class.
My mother would think that saying "yeah" is a sign of overconfidence. Overconfidence is equivalent to arrogance. Then she would ask me, "Your grades are pretty good this time, but you can guarantee that they will be the same next time." What about next time?” I was choked up and speechless...
The follow-up was that I really didn’t do well in the next exam, and I was extremely nervous. Every time I write a word, I think about what to do if my grades are not as good as last time, what to do if the teacher doesn’t praise me at the parent-teacher meeting, and at the same time, I deeply regret the “yeah” I yelled in the corridor.
Taking this as a lesson, over time I became that kind of very unpleasant student. When others praised me for doing well in the exam, I would say a fixed sentence pattern: No, no, I just happened to review That’s it, I was confused about many questions...
Maybe many children have experienced similar family education. This kind of native family values ????will penetrate into many aspects, causing us to subconsciously know that self-confidence is good, but Many times, we actively avoid this kind of self-confidence because we are worried about being slapped in the face, so we advocate doing big things in silence, leaving ourselves a way out, and having fun secretly when nothing happens.
The genius girl Xiao Gu, who has become very popular recently, happens to be the opposite of the children of our generation. If the story about the chained mother made many girls fear marriage and childbearing, then Xiao Gu’s free and easy spirit once again aroused their hearts as old mothers.
I have the impression that athletes are very well-behaved and restrained, just like Quan Hongchan, who came from a difficult background and then became a blockbuster with her tenacity.
But the appearance of Xiao Gu made people’s eyes light up, and they felt that being an athlete could still be like this.
Not only can he do the work of the Sky Monkey, but he can also become an Olympic champion and the top scorer in the college entrance examination. Isn’t that awesome? If I could have a baby like this, I would be able to wake up laughing while lying under a bridge dreaming.
Okay, let’s take a look at how to give birth to a baby like Xiaogu.
Xiao Gu was born in San Francisco, USA, to a mixed-race Chinese-American child. Her parents separated when she was very young. She grew up with her grandmother and mother. She called her grandmother grandma and took her mother's surname.
Both my grandparents graduated from Peking University. When my grandfather passed away, in the words of G Media, he was "the most praised chief electrical engineer in the Ministry of Housing and Urban-Rural Development."
In that era when the streets were full of illiterates, those who could enter the top universities were not only rich or noble, but also nobles with high IQs.
Gu Ma graduated from the Chemistry Department of Peking University and went to the United States to study in the 1980s. She first studied for a master's degree in biochemistry and molecular biology at Auburn University, and then studied molecular genetics at Rockefeller University.
After working on Wall Street for a period of time after graduation, she went to Stanford University Business School in California to study for an MBA degree.
It was also there that she met her future husband, Xiao Gu’s father, a white American who graduated from Harvard University, and Xiao Gu’s grandfather also graduated from Stanford.
According to domestic concepts, Ms. Gu belongs to the late-marriage family and was nearly 40 years old when she gave birth to Xiao Gu.
When she was just pregnant with the baby, her sister Gu Ling went to visit her. One day, she had a car accident while driving her sister's BMW convertible and died unfortunately. Xiao Gu was born 10 months later. In memory of her aunt, her mother Name her Ailing, her English name is Eileen.
Also named Eileen in English are Zhang Ailing and Song Ailing. The three of them are talented girls and all come from well-off families.
Mother Gu made her first pot of gold on Wall Street, and has been working in venture capital in China ever since. She is professionally certified as a "private investor and investment expert" and has her own investment company.
My daughter also grew up in a wealthy area of ??San Francisco. Three generations of her family lived in a large house in the Sea Cliff community. From their bedroom, they could see San Francisco's famous landscape - the Golden Gate Bridge.
When Xiaogu was 3 months old, Gu’s mother drove 4 hours a week to take her to the ski resort, not for the chicken baby, but because she liked it.
When she was still at Peking University, she was a member of the short track speed skating team. When she came to the United States, she skied for the first time in New York. She suddenly regained her feeling. For this reason, she even took the exam to become a ski instructor. .
After moving to California, because of her love, she also went to work as a part-time instructor at the Polaris Resort Ski Resort in Lake Tahoe, California.
Every time I go there, I take my baby with me. She skates on her own, and the baby plays with her grandma while waiting for her mother to get off work. The mother doesn’t deliberately teach her, but the child is influenced by it and can walk. Can ski.
So much so that she later did not remember when she learned to ski. She only knew that as long as she had memory, she could go all the way down the snow track.
Xiaogu watched his mother enjoy herself on the ski resort, and was infected without knowing it. Before she was 3 years old, she was rolling around like a meat ball on the smallest skis.
One time, because she was too young, she slipped and fell asleep in the snow. The snow was higher than she was, and it took her mother a long time to dig it out.
Many years later, Gu’s mother said: “I have loved playing since I was a child. If I liked golf at that time, my daughter might also fall in love with golf.”
“My daughter does not have to go to Stanford. , as long as you go to school that you like, the most important thing is to never give up learning in your life."
I understand after writing this, you thought that the development of a genius girl is a matter of hard work, but you didn't expect that it will happen naturally. Gu Ma does not have chicken babies, and she does not sacrifice herself like a nanny. Everything revolves around her children.
The first thing she fell in love with was herself. She studied chemistry in college and her hobby was skiing. She studied abroad for half of it. Suddenly she switched to the financial track. She studied at Stanford and became an investment elite. Then she made money while skiing. .
Thanks to words and deeds, my daughter fell in love with skiing when she grew up and wanted to study at her mother’s alma mater.
The best investment is yourself, but Gu’s mother has not relaxed her children’s education. When it comes to cultivating Xiao Gu’s interests and hobbies, she does not force her children to be the same as others, but encourages them to try more. Find a favorite and enjoy it.
Why? Because according to her growth experience, only true love and interest can persist in this matter.
I think it makes sense. You see, there is no shortage of talented players in the sports world, but a long-term career must come from the heart.
For example, many table tennis veterans are so old that others consider them grandfathers. They are still playing even if they can’t reach the finals. That’s because they like it.
On the contrary, it is very scary. For example, another young genius, Xiao Jin, lost his passion for figure skating after winning the championship due to years of hard training and injuries.
The training was all mechanical. She said she never wanted to skate again. She had just been skating all these years and couldn't even ride a bicycle. It was too hard.
With her old mother’s talent and academic gene, coupled with the physical ability inherited from her white father, Xiao Gu learns faster than other children. A 3-year-old skates with a 5-year-old, and a 5-year-old skates with an 8-year-old. When she was 8 years old, the school could no longer accommodate her and suggested that her mother send her child to a professional ski team.
Before this, her coach had always been her mother. One day, her mother asked her: "Do you want to go to the ski competition and compete with others?"
Then she asked her again : "Becoming a professional athlete in the arena requires more sweat, and at the same time, you must not delay your studies. If you can do it, your mother will accompany you."
She nodded, and became Mrs. The only girl on the professional ski team in the Haohu area, her mother later bought an apartment next to the ski resort.
Mother Gu has always said she is a rabbit mom, but in the eyes of Americans, she is a Tiger mom, because few Americans put so much effort into their children.
In the past, it was okay to drive 8 hours round trip every week to train, and buying a house was not considered an investment. Xiaogu attended a private school since he was a child, and the tuition alone cost more than 40,000 US dollars a year, totaling more than 300,000 yuan. , it’s been 18 years since I started.
In addition, I learned everything from dance, piano and vocals to archery, rock climbing and cross-country running, and everything was expensive.
For skiing, hiring a professional instructor for one lesson costs at least 150 U.S. dollars, and tens of thousands of U.S. dollars for a snow season is a small amount. This does not include the food, accommodation and travel expenses for flying around the world to compete. Mao Guang estimated that she had to pay at least 20 million soft girl coins to raise this child.
But it is wrong to say that children in China do not spend so much money. Rich and poor are the treasures of the family.
The accumulation of some interest expenses is enough to buy a good BMW, but if you spend it stupidly, you can’t see what talent the child has, which is equivalent to wasting money. From this, it seems that Xiaogu’s mother is For investment experts, the rate of return is still amazing.
It can be seen that spending money is a cloud, and whether you can get back the money depends mainly on your children.
For example, if an average child learns piano, she will definitely not use it for physical exercise, but when Xiao Gu plays the piano, she will think of skiing.
Before each action, I imagine it as music in my mind. After taking off, the sound of wind in my ears will emit different beats. Different actions have different rhythms.
Cork 900 has an action of "ta da da da", and duble cork 1260 has an action of "ta da da da da" - can your child do this? She doesn't even think about doing the splits.
In addition to skiing, she also loves long-distance running, and she finished second in San Francisco in cross-country running.
When I participated in the competition, I was temporarily ranked second at the beginning. When I turned the corner, I heard my grandma shouting: Eileen NO.1, Eileen NO.1. She turned around and saw her 1.5-meter-tall grandmother leading a group of American mothers to cheer her on.
She still hasn’t figured out how an old man who can’t speak a word of English does it. But she knows that winning is always important.
This desire for first place was taught by my grandmother, Ms. Feng. I forgot to mention that her grandmother is 86 years old and still runs one mile every day.
——Ka, it took me a long time to teach by words and deeds.
She trains 65 days a year, while other players train more than 200 days. She also attends other interest classes and attends the American version of the High School Affiliated to Renmin University. How does she do it?
Gu’s mother taught her: sleep well first. When I was a child, I slept a full 15 hours. After elementary school, I slept 13 hours. Now I sleep at least 10 hours.
Because skiing is a control game, maintaining balance depends on skills. The mind must lead the body, and if you don’t get enough rest, the mind will be easily distracted. She practiced high-risk moves, and if she fell from the sky while distracted, she would most likely be dead.
Concentrate when you are full of sleep, and then focus on efficient training. Use every minute wisely and never be lazy.
If you encounter difficult movements, practice them with techniques, think while practicing, and slowly find the feeling in your body.
This concentration does not mean to do only one thing, but to do any thing, stay focused first, complete it efficiently, and then switch to the next thing cleanly.
For example, you should study hard when you usually study. When you are tired of studying, you will be motivated when you think about skiing on the weekend. When it comes to skiing, you will enjoy it wholeheartedly because you have been looking forward to it for a week, so both things are very efficient.
——Does this sound like what Chinese teachers often say: Study hard and have fun while playing.
In addition to being focused and efficient, he also has self-discipline. No matter what the weather is like, Xiaogu can't stop running for 40 minutes every day, even in the extremely hot Dubai.
After waiting in the waiting room for a long time, I just played the piano and did my homework. After 4 hours of skiing, you can learn physical chemistry to let your body rest and adjust your brain to achieve a better athletic state.
——Any one of them is the trick of the top academics in China.
Xiao Gu said that his mother is very powerful. She is the only parent who can keep up with the athletes in sparring (nonsense, she is the coach) and the "intelligent brain" behind it.
From learning methods to movements, from game mentality to competitive skills, scientific analysis will be conducted to teach her how to break it down step by step and how to achieve it in the end.
——You can succeed in anything you do, not just skiing.
For example, Gu’s mother has been accompanying her daughter to train and compete, and she has not missed work. That’s it, the investment company has been open, and new tracks have been expanded, such as the Chinese freestyle skiing platform and slopes for the Winter Olympics. On the Obstacles team roster, her name appears in the management column.
In other words, while working as a chicken baby, she has broadened her career path.
——As expected, good children and mothers make each other successful. The mother makes the child happy first, and then the child helps the mother.
Reviewing Xiaogu’s road to fame, I discovered that instead of envying how good other people’s babies are, it’s better to first see how awesome a mother is. Chinese people like to talk about time, location, and harmony. In fact, chickens The same goes for babies, genes, methods and choices are all indispensable.
Xiao Gu has the ancestral academic gene, the sports gene of his mother, and the physique of his white father. Then my mother is very methodical, but the way most of us parents teach our children is that there is no method, only roaring.
Mama Gu’s transition from studying chemistry to finance to skiing was seamless. After her daughter learned the essence, she was able to excel even in studying the metaverse, not to mention winning the championship.
The most awesome thing about this mother is helping her daughter make choices at critical moments in her career.
When Xiao Gu first achieved results, the ski associations of China and the United States expressed their goodwill to her. However, in 2019, Gu’s mother made the decision to naturalize her daughter in China, which has since started her daughter’s glory in the Chinese world. " Naturalization” policy, this is an epic opportunity.
Achievement has commercial value. She just caught up with the era of top sports idol vacuum.
The era of Yao Ming, Li Na, Liu Xiang, and Lin Dan has passed. Other sports are popular, but they are not globally famous. After such a championship, advertisers are not allowed to move from here to France?
The quotation for shooting an advertisement is 2.5 million US dollars. Now I have more than 20 brands in my hands. From now on, the amount will be too much to imagine.
Don’t underestimate this choice. The Japanese table tennis player Tomokazu Harimoto is also a talented player. He is as old as him. In order to win the Olympic gold medal, he and his father and sister naturalized in Japan.
Although the father changed his surname to "Zhang Ben" in order to prevent his son from forgetting his roots, the child always expressed his intention to defeat the national table tennis team and help Japan win the championship, which caused a lot of controversy.
Fortunately, our national table tennis team lacks everything except masters.
Yang Zhenning said: "As long as a person chooses a good direction, working hard enough may not necessarily lead to big results, but with the development of China today, small achievements can certainly be achieved."
I don’t know how long Xiao Gu can walk, but the picture on her snowboard says it all - she is the best among people.