Some advice for girls who are preparing to get married
1. Don’t marry an old man. Older men have poor sperm quality, which can easily affect fertility. For the sake of the next generation, the age gap is too big, so you must choose carefully.
2. Any woman who has the potential to be a mistress is ruthless, at least more ruthless than you! ! !
Those women who thought that having a man would transform them from delicate and beautiful vases into thick water cups have all "returned" to being single. There is no shame in being single, but there is a huge difference between the feeling of being dumped and the feeling of dumping someone else. Let me give you a piece of advice. If you want to be a woman who can only be imitated and cannot be surpassed, you must be harsh on yourself.
3. It is best not to have sex before marriage.
It doesn’t matter, just take protective measures and bring TT. Marrying under a decree will make your husband's family look down upon you. Didn’t you see that couple, who didn’t even have a wedding and were very nice to show off their affection, just announced their divorce? Dear friends! This is a bloody lesson!
4. Before marriage, you can regard money as dirt. After marriage, you should transform into a female version of Grandet. Watch the money bag, and men will basically not be able to run away. Today, when the divorce rate remains high, pre-marital property must be protected. Don’t wait until the time of divorce to leave the house without even taking a cent with you. A man without money is unattractive to women...
5. It is not recommended to cry while sitting on a BMW, but it is more comfortable than crying on the back seat of a bicycle.
Material girls are indeed a bit derogatory, but material girls do live a much better life than girls who are sentimental and drink enough! Having no money is a flaw. You don’t even have the basic cost of maintaining love. Just like you buy a car but have no money to buy a garage. In the end, both the car and you will depreciate very quickly.
6. Men who cheat are not as good as same-sex lovers and deserve respect. According to statistics from authoritative departments, people who cheat before marriage will only become more unscrupulous after marriage.
As long as two people love each other, they can be together openly. There is really nothing shady. The time of using your grievances and forbearance to win back a cheating man has long passed! What you can do is to show your principles and bottom line in front of the other party and let the other party know that there is no sand in your eyes.
7. Compare with others from time to time, and then knock them off. To put it bluntly, it may hurt feelings. By watching popular TV series, I can give you a general idea: so-and-so’s husband has eight-pack abs just after working out for half a year... Men are competitive animals, not captive pets. You must give him a bunch of goals and keep asking him to achieve them, so that he will find life interesting. Then there is no time to play video games or chat with colleagues.
8. When you have a suitor, you must be high-profile and don’t hide it.
Of course, this does not mean that you are stepping on the wrong side of the world, but that you, including your lover and friends, will feel that even though you are famous and married, you are still not lacking in love. Strategies and caution are the additives of love when necessary. Although not healthy, they can always bring some freshness to ordinary life.
9. You must have in-depth contact with each other’s parents before marriage.
This way of going deep "behind enemy lines" can allow you to understand some of the situation of the other party's native family. The influence of one's original family on people is much more serious than studying for a Ph.D. A strong mother or a gambling father will have a great impact on your partner's personality. Even if you hide it well during the love period, it will be exposed after marriage and become a huge hidden danger to your marriage.
10. Before and after marriage, you are you, never someone’s girlfriend or someone’s wife. In modern society, everyone has labels. The one who belongs to you is definitely not the woman behind the man, but the woman who insists on being herself
11. Although there are risks in getting married, the consequences are more serious than the risks of rushing to marry.
On matrimonial websites, fake photos, fake academic qualifications, and fake real estate certificates are constantly being updated to catch those marriageable men and women who are eager to get married and are relatively indifferent to relationships. A marriage without emotion is more terrifying than being a leftover woman.
12. Don’t judge people by their appearance.
Some people tend to stereotype scumbag men, thinking that if they are handsome, it will only be a matter of time before they cheat. In fact, cheating has little to do with face, but is determined by the nature of a man. A warm man may also be a central air conditioner, which not only warms you, but also warms girls everywhere.
13. Marriage is not your ship sailing into the harbor of love, but a new and more adventurous journey. Girl, take care!
14. Children cannot maintain your relationship.
We are not performing a palace drama, we are living a real life. We need firewood, rice, oil and salt for daily expenses. Children are cute and innocent. Don’t rush to have children before you are sure that the other person can give you a safe and stable life
15. Not getting married means that you may break up, and you still have a chance to choose. .
"You can get divorced after getting married anyway!" Do people who say this have any brains? Marriage means the involvement of both families and the integration of circles. You get married under the witness of relatives and friends, and both parties have greater responsibilities. Big. Therefore, you must choose carefully...
16. Many people dream of marrying someone who is their soul mate, and they will live happily together after marriage.
Actually.
Life is full of blood and chicken feathers, because you changed from one person to two people, and soon became three or four people. This huge change will cause a shift in the focus of your life. Much like animals migrating from south to north, it is full of challenges and risks. It is not recommended to demonize marriage, but we should not idealize it too much.
17. Try to live together for a period of time before marriage. It does not need to be long. This short-term sexual life together will give you "unexpected" gains.
As small as washing your feet and cutting your nails, or as big as some daily routine issues, it may cause you to break up.
When it comes to this point, the feelings are no longer shallow. If you really can't stand it, you might as well split it up and stop your losses in time.
18. Read the new marriage law in detail.
I say this to those who long for marriage, because I want you to wake up as soon as possible from the sweet words in front of the flowers and under the moon. Let’s understand: everything a man says has no legal effect.
19. A pre-marriage physical examination must be done! ! !
We also need to spend more money to do the most comprehensive thing. Some invisible diseases are hereditary and can affect your children.
20. Did you get married for love?
Congratulations! Falling in love without the purpose of marriage is a hooliganism, but a marriage without emotion is more like a tomb and will ruin the future of two people.
21. Stay away from people with domestic violence tendencies.
If two people who love each other can fight each other at every turn, then your love must have deteriorated. Just imagine, a person who rubs shoulders with you in bed and can't turn into conjoined twins at all. After putting on clothes, he will look at you with cold words, insult and bully you. That horrible feeling, will your spine feel chilly?
22. Everyone who wants to get married longs to be loved, but sadness and being loved are only two syllables apart...
The giving between lovers is more important. Just like a bank, depositing and withdrawing requires two people to work together to maintain it. If you meet someone who is not kind to you, you are likely to have sacrificed a lot unilaterally. Not only will you not get the warmth and love you want, but you will also become colder and more miserable.
23. A baby boy is not an ideal marriage partner.
Imagine that you have formed a small family together, but your parents get involved and have to take care of everything. So why are you getting married? Just for a few people to play mahjong and fight landlords together? Or do you want a bunch of people to live together as lively as a vegetable market?
24. If you have reached the point of discussing marriage, there are some issues that must be discussed.
For example, if you want the man to buy a house and write your name on the real estate certificate, don't shy away from sensitive topics. If you have ideas, put them forward openly. Although the two parties may break up because of this, it is more reliable than having to argue about this topic for decades after getting married, or getting divorced in the future.
25. Men and women have been equal for several years, but women’s contribution after marriage far exceeds that of men several times.
So when it comes to choosing a man, you must keep your eyes open and wear a microscope to observe carefully when necessary. Once you have wrong vision and meet someone who is unkind, it will not only delay your life, but also cause permanent damage to your children and parents. 26. Whether it is before or after marriage, you must pay attention to the scale when quarreling, and do not overdo it. Old accounts. I have seen many couples quarreling. Even when the other party didn't ask her whether she eats spicy food when they first met, they had to bring it out and start a quarrel. This is not conducive to solving the current problem, and it is also very hurtful to feelings. The correct way to quarrel is: each of you will answer the most important question for half an hour, and one party will just listen. The advantage of this method is that maybe before one party has finished speaking, the other party will know that they are wrong and apologize obediently. It is civilized and hygienic, how good it is.
27. Don’t get married easily. Showing off your affection just a few hours after knowing each other will kill you very quickly.
Looking at the turbulent entertainment industry, men and women who do these two things are divided in the end. You seek a man to make yourself happy, not to make others think you are happy.
28. It is best not to rush to have children after getting married.
I have seen many stray cats and dogs, and they were also the darlings of their owners. However, the owner took them home on a whim and discovered that they were not stuffed animals. They needed to be cared for in order to eat, drink, and poop. As time went by, they lost patience and abandoned them. Raising children is also a long and arduous process.
Especially for a woman, her body and physiology will undergo tremendous changes during pregnancy. It is a wise choice to cultivate your relationship well in the early stages of marriage and then consider having children after your life is on track.